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Colorful Heaven

May 7, 2009

Since Beza’s big decision last week there has been a lot more talk about heaven and eternity.

Today on the way to football practice the conversation in the car turned to heaven and who the kids would most like to see. Beza said her Ethiopian mommy and daddy. Natalie said Grandma Tuttle.

Then Noah suggested that Beza might not recognize her Ethiopian mommy and daddy because maybe they would be white in heaven.

Before I jumped in with some theological answer Wendemagegn piped up “Yeah, I think you gonna be black in heaven Noah!”

I was trying so hard to keep a straight face.

From there the conversation turned to the ridiculous with “Maybe you’ll be pink. Maybe you’ll be a lizard. Maybe you’ll be invisible.”

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Going Home

May 5, 2009

I can’t remember exactly when it began, maybe 4-6 weeks ago, but we began praying for Ethiopian Grammy each night at bed time. I think it was originally born out of a grief session. So we pray that Ethiopian Grammy will be safe and not sick and have what she needs. Sometimes Beza prays for her dog too – that he won’t get sick or be eating by hyenas. (And yes, this is a valid concern – they hyenas come into the city at night.)

Well tonight as we were getting ready for bed Beza said “I want to go see Ethiopian Grammy. I go to Ethiopia and then come back here to America.” My first thought was “Yeah, she likes being here!” So I told her that dad and I would love to sometime take her and Wendemagegn back to Ethiopia. Of course Natalie chimed in that she wants to go to.

“When?” she asked.

“When you are older.”

“9?” (She’s 8.)

“Probably not 9, older?”

“10?”

I finally conveyed that we did not have a travel date picked out and that we would just have to wait and see and that it would cost lots of money to take the whole family back to Ethiopia.

Since then she seems relieved to know that someday she will get to go home and visit. I’m relieved to know that she will happily get on the plane with us to come home to the U.S.

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One Simple Act

May 3, 2009

As a writer, there are few experiences in life that leave me at a true loss for words. But that is the place I have found myself in since a day last December when an encounter with a beautiful Ethiopian girl touched my heart.

We were in Ethiopia to pick up our kids, but arrived a week early so that we could spend some time seeing the ministry of Hope for the Hopeless which was founded by an Ethiopian pastor in Phoenix.

Our first encounter was at their Drop In Center in the heart of Addis Ababa. Their staff rescues kids off the streets and brings them in, feeds and cares for them and then tries to either reunite them with their family, find foster homes for them or, as room allows, place them in their boys and girls home.

That first day as we entered the gates of their little compound our van was surrounded by about 14 kids, most of them were boys. We got lots of hugs and handshakes and smiles. Later as we sat in the director’s office he began to tell us the stories of some of the kids. He told us about Mary. She was found on the streets, having been beaten and raped by 4 boys. She hovered near death for several days before being healed and brought into Hope’s place. Fekadu cried as he told us about how Jesus changed her life.

An hour later we stood once again in the courtyard and listened as the children gathered and sang us a song. Though we could not understand the words, we could sense the pure joy in their hearts and knew they were speaking of our Jesus. Tears streamed down my face and I could not take my eyes off of Mary, her face lifted to the heavens, eyes closed, singing to her Savior with a beautiful smile on her face.

Two days later we found ourselves at the Drop In Center again. We did not plan to stay long – we were just picking up Fekadu before traveling to one of their other sites. I had brought with me a pair of black boots that one of the other adoptive moms at the guesthouse had given me. She was leaving that afternoon and as she was packing she decided that those shoes could be put to much better use by one of Hope’s kids.

Mary was the only child there that afternoon. The others were in school. (They have had trouble finding Mary’s school records and so she hadn’t been able to start school yet.)

I handed Fekadu the black ankle boots and told him I wasn’t sure who they would fit, maybe one of the older girls. I’ll never forget the look on Mary’s face as she rushed over to Fekadu and put out her hands. He laughed and told her she could try them on. As she zipped up the boots she had the biggest smile on her face and she was literally bursting with excitement. Done putting them on, she began to bounce up and down and spin around like a girl who had just put on a beautiful ball gown. It was obvious to us that the boots were a little too big for her, but she didn’t care.

Then she saw my shoes and rushed over to me, for I was wearing very similar black ankle boots. She stood next to me, her foot pressed up against mine and smiled at me. She pointed to her shoes, then pointed to mine and smiled from ear to ear.

I was half watching her and half talking to Fekadu as she found a small rag or piece of paper and got it wet underneath the water spigot. Then she kneeled in front of me and began to clean the dust of Addis off of my boots.

A million emotions swirled over me. I was taken aback at first. Part of me wanted to bend down and make her stop. It was unsettling to have this beautiful girl, who had been through so much in her short life, washing MY shoes. After all, WE were the ones who had come to Ethiopia to serve these kids, to love them, to help them see how much they were loved by Jesus.

But in one moment our trip became not about what I could do for these “needy” kids but what those beautiful, hope-filled kids could teach me about gratitude, contentment and a true servants heart. For this girl, who had nothing, gave everything she had out of a heart of love and joy.

I knew that to try and stop her would seem ungrateful, and so I let sweet Mary continue to wash my boots, tears streaming down my face the entire time. We left a few moments later, my heart forever touched by a simple act of a beautiful orphan named Mary.

(I am not the only one that has been forever changed by meeting Mary. Read about Tom Davis’ encounter and learn more about Mary’s story.)

Mary & her boots

Mary & her boots

John 13: 8-17
It was just before the Passover Feast. Jesus knew that the time had come for him to leave this world and go to the Father. Having loved his own who were in the world, he now showed them the full extent of his love.
The evening meal was being served, and the devil had already prompted Judas Iscariot, son of Simon, to betray Jesus. Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.
He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?”
Jesus replied, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.”
“No,” said Peter, “you shall never wash my feet.”
Jesus answered, “Unless I wash you, you have no part with me.”
“Then, Lord,” Simon Peter replied, “not just my feet but my hands and my head as well!”
Jesus answered, “A person who has had a bath needs only to wash his feet; his whole body is clean. And you are clean, though not every one of you.” For he knew who was going to betray him, and that was why he said not every one was clean.
When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.”

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More Hope Visit Tales

April 22, 2009

As promised Tom wrote about our beautiful Mary. Go read it, and be touched.

There are also a couple great posts on Erin’s blog here and here

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Hope-Filled Day

April 20, 2009

Today has been one of those amazing, fill-your-heart, walking-on-clouds, amazed-at-God’s-goodness kind of days that is hard to put into words.

It began a couple weeks ago when I heard, via Twitter, that Tom Davis (president of Children’s Hopechest) was headed to Ethiopia and was looking for other orphanages that he could visit and explore a partnership with while he was there. Um, YES!!!

I quickly sent him a tweet back (ha, if you don’t Twitter you’re probably lost right now…hang in there) and sent him a link to our wonderful friends at Hope for the Hopeless. There was a flurry of emails back and forth and I will confess to not getting much work done that day (sorry Greg, I’ll make it up). But I knew what an amazing opportunity this was for Hope.

We kept it kind of close to the chest because we did not know what would come of it. We were elated when we saw the visit scheduled on Tom’s itinerary. I emailed out our little network of friends/fellow Hope supporters. Except I messed up. I told them Tom was visiting on Wed the 21st. We made all these great plans to fast and pray from Tuesday afternoon – Wed morning (Ethiopia is 10 hours ahead). Except Tuesday is the 21st, not Wed.

This afternoon I got a message from hubby that Tom had posted pictures to his Facebook page. Sure enough, there were our beautiful kids! I was hit with the fact that God so didn’t need me to carry out his plans.

I sat at my desk and wept. Mostly with joy, but also with an incredible longing to be there and see those kids again. We saw beautiful, familiar faces and it brought our time with them rushing back.

So then I left and got my hair done, picked up kids, fixed dinner, got kids to bed…all the while just giddy from head to toe, sneaking peeks at my computer.

After getting the kids to bed I checked my computer again (refresh, refresh) and there was Tom’s blog post about his day.

“I can’t remember the last time I’ve been overwhelmed with so many things at once – love received from the kids, stories that broke my heart, joy that filled my soul as we danced and sang together.

…When we left each of them hugged us again, this time a little longer, and with the words I love you in our ears. Some community of folks gets to sponsor this orphanage. I’m telling you, it’s one of the most amazing places I’ve ever been.”

So I cried some more…and now I’m crying again. I am so excited to see what God brings about out of this visit. Please join me in praying for Tom and his team as they visit even more orphanages in Ethiopia. If you want to help launch the sponsorship of Hope for the Hopeless with Children’s Hopechest you can donate here. Just mention “Hope for the Hopeless” in the notes section.

Tom’s promised to blog about Mary, one of the girls at Hope, whose story will humble and amaze you. And I promise that I will follow it up with my own story about Mary and how she changed this woman forever.

If you want to read some of my posts from our time at Hope for the Hopeless in Dec you can go here and here and here.

Oh, but God didn’t stop there – this afternoon Mark called and played me a message from our answering machine. It was the school principal (Uh, Oh – must involve fists and blood). But no, sweet Beza and her friend Lizzie and gone into Mr. Starts office because they wanted to pray and ask Jesus into their hearts. That made me cry too – I’ve cried a lot today.

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Corn, Cheese, Parasites and Drama

April 15, 2009

Yeah, so there’s been a bit of a blogging drought going on over here, I know. When you work for a church the pre-Easter season tends to be VERY crazy. By the time I get home, do homework time, cook, help get the kids put to bed I am pretty much emotionally and creatively spent. Countless times I’ve gotten as far as the WordPress log in page only to find that I just didn’t have it in me.

But lest you think there is some big trauma going on I felt I should give you some updates on the kiddos…

The previous food issues have GREATLY improved. I’m not cooking quite everything that was on my normal meal rotation – I would say maybe 90% of it. We’ve had some major accomplishements in that I’ve gotten them to eat yellow corn (previously it was only white corn allowed), and cooked carrots. I don’t think I’ve tried peas yet (Mark doesn’t like them either) but other than that the only veggie they really don’t care for is green beans. But they will eat a small spoonful…w/ lots of Berbere. I actually think Beza tries to swallow them whole. I also served chili the other night (hamburger plus 3 kinds of beans). It got an initial questionable look (but no finger wag) but they ended up eating 2 bowls each and Beza even tried some cheese on the top of hers and liked it. (They claim to hate cheese and don’t believe us that there is cheese on the pizza they love so much.) Dinner time no longer seems like such a chore which is great.

They are both doing really well in school. Their biggest struggle is with reading comprehension which is to be expected. Wendemagegn and Noah’s class has to write a small report and do a presentation and it is kind of a struggle for him but we’ll do the best we can.

We did find out today that we brought a stowaway home from Ethiopia. That’s right, finally got around to doing the routinely-recommended stool samples and they did find parasites. Only one child’s test is back but we suspect we will find it in both. Good news is that it is just 3 days of meds…supposedly. I just realized that I wonder if I have to redo the stool samples to see if it’s gone. Hm, do not look forward to that. (Somehow as the “puke parent” I also got voted the “poop parent”.)

We had a kind of rough week last week with some grieving issues with Beza – had about 3 or 4 nights in a row with quite a bit of tears. She gets herself pretty worked up. Dad seems to do a really good job of getting her to take deep breaths and get calmed down so she can go to sleep. A few of the nights it seems she is missing Ethiopian Grammy and her dog. One night it was about her friend (whose name she could not remember but Wendemagegn was willing to supply). I’m sure at times it feels like all these new places and people are pushing the other ones out of her head.

We’ve also had our fair share of “drama issues” as I call them. Tonight for example I was telling the girls the story of Queen Esther. Natalie started to tell it with me and Beza said “Not Natalie, just mom.” Well a couple times Natalie jumped in for a bit in her excitement and Beza proceeded to get kind of snippy with her and then she began to pout. I had finished the story and it was time for prayers but Beza declared she did not want to pray. I pushed for a bit to see why and she said because she was angry (which the fact that we are starting to be able to verbalize this stuff is great). Natalie (who was sitting on my lap on the floor) whispered to me “Mom, I think you should go talk to her.”

Well then Beza got upset that Natalie was “talking about her” and hid her face in her lap and REFUSED to look at me. I told her that to the contrary, Natalie was being nice. Natalie even apologized for whispering but she would have none of it. Nothing would convince her that Natalie was not being mean. She finally said “I don’t want to talk in home anymore. I don’t want to laugh. I don’t want to hear.” There wasn’t really any reasoning with her at that point so I made Natalie get in bed during which time Beza crawled UNDER her covers and wrapped them over her head. When I poked my head in to whisper “I love you” she was not a happy camper. Hopefully it will all be past in the morning. Otherwise she’s going to have an interesting time.

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Flag Football

April 4, 2009

Most people will probably be surprised to hear that Wendemagegn decided to go out for Flag Football instead of soccer. I’m not sure what we were thinking – could he have picked a more complicated sport to learn? Line of scrimmage, down and out, down and in, 1st down….whole new set of vocabulary words.

But he is having a great time and we love that he is playing on Pastor Greg’s team…even if they have to be called the Raiders :-) They had their first game today and even though they lost the boys did a really great job. Wendemagegn is pretty fast so they’ve got a play where they hand off the ball to him. He loves to dodge and run around the defense…some of that fancy soccer foot work showing up. We just got to get him to run straight!

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American Girly Girl

March 28, 2009

I was surprised that it took this long, but finally about two weeks ago Beza asked if she could get her ears pierced. I explained a little about the process and that it hurts a bit to make sure she understood. She vowed she still wanted them. I was hoping we wouldn’t have a repeat of Natalie’s experience. I told her we would get them done during Spring Break.

Then last weekend I was watching some Jon & Kate Plus 8 on the DVR and there was an episode of their 8 year old getting her ears pierced. It included tears and finally smiles. Perfect. I set Beza and Natalie down to watch that little clip for one last reassurance that she was ready. She was a little more skeptical but remained determined.

She vascillated between saying she would cry and she wouldn’t cry. Natalie was not helping at all with repeated “It really hurts Beza.”

So Thursday we did the deed with a quick trip to Claire’s. (After I spent close to 45 minutes on the phone with 4 different places trying to see when one would have 2 workers on hand.) She chose little red earrings to match Natalie (big surprise – NOT) and sat in the chair with her eyes half squinted close in anticipation of the pain – while I was still filling out paperwork.

When it finally came time to do the deed she squeezed my hands, the pulled the trigger and there were absolutely NO tears. I think there was a sharp intake of breath and a “ow” and some head shaking but she did really great.

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(She’s just cleaning the ears – see the look.)

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The sisters and their matching earrings.

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When your son pulls a gun on the social worker…

March 27, 2009

So this morning was our first post-placement visit with our social worker. Hubby spent yesterday cleaning and we had the kids fed and wearing clean clothes by 9:30 this morning. Noah and Natalie had met her about a year ago when she did our home study visit. We explained to Wendemagegn and Beza that this was just someone coming to meet them and see how our family was doing.

She rang the doorbell and hadn’t been inside the house more than about 90 seconds when a ball came flying over the stairs, courtesy of Noah.

Then I hear “Freeze!”

I look up and Noah is peering over the wall upstairs – pointing a gun at the social worker. Not some bright blue and orange nerf gun but a very realistic looking silver TOY gun. Apparently courtesy of Grandpa yesterday at the Phoenix Police Museum.

We’re all about making good first impressions!

Noah’s probably never seen me run up those stairs that fast, eyes bulging.

Either the social worker didn’t notice, or she wasn’t phased. She said nothing and the rest of the visit went great.

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Forgot to buy that…

March 26, 2009

All four kids spent the night at MeeMaw and Pa’s house last night.

This morning I got a call from MeeMaw.

“Julie, how am I supposed to fix Beza’s hair? You didn’t send any Ethiopian water.”

Huh?

I guess she asked Beza what I use to fix her hair in the morning. She said water.

Natalie added “Yeah, Ethiopian water.”

I guess she thinks I brought home some special water that I’ve been using in that spray bottle. (It’s really just a 1 to 6 mixture of hair oil and water.)